Healing Through Story

Therapeutic fiction that helps you recognize toxic relationship patterns and reclaim your power.

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Transformative Healing

From Trauma Survival
to Absolute Freedom

Self To Be is the transformative platform and coaching practice dedicated to guiding accomplished professionals and capable individuals beyond the cycles of narcissistic trauma and emotional manipulation.

A Complete, Three-Part Path to Healing

Storytelling

Using therapeutic fiction (The Reflection Trap series) to provide empathetic insight and recognition.

Nervous System Framework

Employing the proven framework and practices of Mindshift Meditation to dismantle trauma patterns and foster internal stability.

Strategy

Delivering practical strategies for self-mastery to help you deliberately reclaim your sovereign power and create your most abundant reality.

Our mission is to help you break free from emotional sabotage, reclaim your inner authority, and move from trauma survival to absolute freedom.

Healing happens when we stop wondering if we're crazy and start trusting that our instincts were right all along.

The Book That Teaches And Heals Through Story

Abbi, a single mom, thought she'd found "the one," but what felt like perfect compatibility was actually masterful manipulation.

Experience love-bombing, mirroring, and emotional abuse as they unfold in this true-to-life therapeutic fiction.

Not Just a Story—A Complete Self-Healing Course.

The Reflection Trap is the first book in the Self To Be series, blending story with a practical healing toolkit. It's designed to help you recognize covert emotional manipulation and start healing immediately.

Spot Red Flags Early: Decode love-bombing, gaslighting, and the Six-Stage Manipulation Cycle.
Trust Your Gut: Understand your body's nervous-system signals (based on Polyvagal Theory) when something feels "off."
Calm Anxiety & Reclaim Control: Use provided grounding and self-soothing strategies to empower your healing.
Set Boundaries & Protect Your Peace: Develop scripts and mindset tools to stop guilt-based control.
Rebuild Self-Worth: Heal the trauma bond and create relationships rooted in respect and calm.

Recognize the Red Flags. Reclaim Your Power. Heal for Good.

Breaking Free

Coming Spring 2026

Abbi's breaks the toxic patterns she realizes were established in her childhood as we follow her healing journey from victim to survivor to thriver.

The story doesn't end with recognizing the trap, it ends with breaking free and reclaiming your life.

"Deb's books could be genuinely life-changing for readers who are in similar situations but can't see it clearly yet. Sometimes fiction can reach people in ways that self-help books can't - they get pulled into the story and suddenly recognize their own patterns reflected back at them."
-Claudia M., Relationship Coach